Friday, March 23, 2012

Lesson Learned

So here I was one lovely evening on a bus, reducing my carbon footprint on the environment(My P.R. person tells me that women find that statement sexy LOL) and listening to some happy music on my mp3 player when I glanced to my right and spotted a man somewhere in his 30's doing the same thing.. But with one difference. I was sitting still and expressionless, but he was Air Drumming,... in public,.... on the bus, and not caring one iota who was watching, snickering or even laughing behind his back.

Now I admit that my first reaction to seeing him was one of thinking that he was less than sane.. I mean who does that? Then I looked around and saw that most of the people on that bus were doing the same thing as me.. Listening to their music.. Straight faced and devoid of any exterior emotion.. And it occurred to me that my someone eclectic co passenger was actually the most sane one of us there.... Music evokes emotion.. it makes us move,dance, clap and sing along. I was listening to Annie Lennox, "Put a Little Love in your Heart".. if I had been at home alone when that was on, I would have been singing and dancing away.. But I have taught myself to sit there unmoving when I am in public.

It got me thinking about how we do that in our day to day life... When we look at children, they are unrestrained.. They Love and Feel with their whole hearts.. When a child gives you a big hug.  You know that you've been hugged, but as we grow older and put on our Grown up pants... We slowly learn to tuck that all away.. We may have moments of  doing or feeling with abandon, but they are pretty sparse compared to the hours we spend being and behaving the way we think adults are supposed to.
Isn't that why young love is so beautiful? They haven't been scarred yet, so they go into it fearlessly with everything they have.. When we get older.. we kind of dance around it.. We don't want to play all of our cards and spook the other person, or open ourselves to hurt.
But I have to ask myself, what are we missing out on?

Honestly I have no answers...No big piece of advice to tie this all together. I only know, that I learned an important lesson that night from a complete stranger. I know that I am going to make a point of letting my inner 6 year old come out and play.. and allow myself to feel and live with my whole heart. Yes, it could lead to more scars..but it also leads to joyful tears and belly laughs...It leads to being awestruck at the full moon and cherishing the Suns rays and of course being silly for no reason at all.

All in all, I think that's worth risking a few scars over... Don't you?

Peace Kiddies :o)


  1. Specialy when looking so cool brings loneliness, would so much like to see people being open about feelings, looking happy insted of so controled, well said my friend, hope more thake your advice

  2. My daughter (who's 15) dances to the music in her head in supermarkets. I hope she never loses that joy.

  3. You are AWESOME!! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, lest I bring my league of derby grrls to hip check them out of bounds.

  4. Thank you for your comments... :o)

    Anon...You are so right, and I'm betting it's what your friends see when you arrive :o)

    Sarah.. How Awesome is your daughter.. I have a 15 year old daughter as well that Exudes it even when she sleeps.. My favourite blog for that is this one.. Not mine, but you will love it :o)

    MM, HUGE Hug....You seriously are the definition of AWESOME!!!! :-D